Samhain: Pumpkins October 15, 2009
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Originally the Jack O Lantern was carved from a turnip. Once Americanized, the pumpkin filled the role as scary lantern against the spooks of Samhain.
Some things you may not know about pumpkins:
- Pumpkins are in the family of squashes and gourds. They are considered a fruit.
- The word pumpkin came from the Greek word pepon, meaning ‘large melon’.
- Pumpkin (and the seeds) are an excellent source of protein, zinc, Vitamin A,potassium and even Tryptophan, the same chemical you find in milk to help you sleep.
- The flowers of the pumpkin plant are edible
They also make a tasty pie, but the you need young, small sized pumpkins which are sweeter.
Carving tips:
- Draw the face ( or whatever you want to carve) onto the pumpkin first.
- When carving the ‘lid’, make the shape jagged to make it easier to fit back in place when carving is finished.
- The lid should also be cut at an angle, creating a ‘cone’ like shape. This will prevent it from falling back into the pumpkin.
- Sprinkle the inside with Cinnimon and Clove to add a nice scent through the holidays.
Coven or Solitary? September 21, 2009
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Now that I’ve started a new witches meetup group, for socialization and education, I encounter a number of pagans who just started on this path. One member asked about covens, while another mentioned she has no interest in joining any covens. This makes for an intriguing topic to cover in this blog.
What is a coven? The word coven comes from covenant, or ‘assembly’. A coven is often a group of pagans (wiccans, witches, other) who follow a tradition, sometimes evolving into their own tradition of practices and beliefs. The aim is to educate members in that tradition, often providing education on how to run their own groups later on. It can also provide a social network, very much like a spiritual family.
Members join and go through a period of time, or mandatory list of duties, they need to perform to reach the next level to their group. These levels are often called ‘degree’, and can take a specific time to achieve. It depends on the tradition of course.
Our coven had no degree system. We didn’t offer training outside of the basics, and had no priest/esshood in which members could move up the ranks for. Our focus centered on each person’s individual spirituality and their goals they set for themselves. This is definitely unorthodox, and we knew that. Our belief was that religion- any religion- falls between you and your personal relationship with the Divine, however you define that.
Your first question to ask when considering joining a coven is ‘why?’. Why do you need to join a coven, what are your goals, and how to expect the coven to help you accomplish those goals? Could you accomplish those goals as a solitary pagan? Do you need someone to teach you? Do you learn better on your own or in groups?
Once you join, then you need to consider the dynamics within the group. Are you comfortable with the coven leaders? Do you feel they listen as well as they teach? Do you get along with everyone else in the group?
What is a solitary? Solitaries are just that- on their own with their spiritual learning. No only is this considered a type of pagan, its often embraced as the preferred style of spiritual learning. They read and perform ritual on their own, letting the gods themselves guide them through their education.
Solitaries enjoy the freedom to learn as they want and how they want. There are no time schedules or demands on personal education. You don’t need to master Tarot reading, or how to make your own wand, as some covens demand. You can also follow whatever deity/deities that call to you, as opposed to the coven’s view on what the gods appear.
Being Solitary provides the freedoms, but some solitary pagans voice how an interest in a group if not to socialize or even partake in circle now and then.
Coven and Solitary are not the only options open for pagans.
Study groups often allow the social network and learning without the strict bylaws of a formal coven to abide by. Finding a study group can be tough. Many solitaries still enjoy being anonymous and don’t want just anyone to join. Sometimes you have to form your own group.
Open circles provide any pagan to join a group for that specific circle/ritual for celebration or magical working. Most offer the Sabbat (holidays) that occur eight times throughout the year, while others hold workshops open to the public. Check occult stores, or even Google your area for pagan groups that hold open circles.
www.witchvox.com provides a database for events and groups you might consider joining.
I’ve been in both covens, solitary, and even formed two study groups over the years. You can find pluses and setback for any of the choices. The best thing to do when deciding is to ask yourself what your needs are, and be particular to the groups you join. If it doesn’t feel right, get out. Its not for you. You might also want to consider forming your own group, which is another blog entry all its own.
Raising Pagan Children July 12, 2009
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To outsiders, raising children in a pagan religion might be a cause for concern. Perhaps they assume that paganism is ‘bad’ for them, that it contradicts the Bible or what have you. Its not Christianity, but its also not harmful to kids. In fact, most pagans I know raise their children liberally, without indoctrinating them in any religion at all.
My own son, who turns ten this November, tells me he’s atheist. He doesn’t believe in God, he told me. “I just believe in nature”. I’m cool with that, though I still expect him to learn of how other’s belief so he can understand the differences in the world. We learn about Christianity, the Muslim faith, Buddhism, and other religions/cultures as they arise in our homeschooling. We tend to explore any faith and culture of a people in our Geography lessons. For instance, we explored what the Aztecs believed while learning about ancient Mexico.
Some people might jump to the conclusion then that he follows my pagan faith. He doesn’t. He believes in the natural order of things, how nature regulates itself. More specifically, he doesn’t believe some guy in the sky is controlling everything. He doesn’t have issues with anyone believing in God, he simply prefers not to.
I do feel children need some spiritual guidance from their parents if only to understand what their family believes. This includes parents who are Atheist. Open discussions on faith, or non faith, or even difference of opinions help a child learn to question and consider different ways of thinking.
Witch: Heal thyself July 6, 2009
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Through my experiences over the years with groups and the pagan community, is encountering so many pagans who look for answers to fix the problems they face. Unfortunately, the teachings of the pagan religions tend to be lax on insight, providing more a recipe for fixing problems with a spell rather than looking deeper into the issues at hand.
Sometimes you need the bad experiences of life to strengthen your soul. Here are a few tips you don’t often find in the pagan books;
Do not look outside yourself for answers. All the answers to your questions and problems lie within you. Although at times outside influences can spark an answer, provide insight, or even smack you into the actualization; you have the answers already. Whatever your spiritual guide or power animal, tarot cards, or even scrying will reveal to you is what you already know inside. They provide a realization, not answers.
Do not presume to know answers for others. It really peeves me when I see pagans who believe they are empathetic enough to provide answers to someone else. Being able to sense another’s emotion doesn’t give you permission to spoon feed your enlightenment to another. In fact, if you were enlightened, you would present the ‘answer’ as a possible answer amid many others.
I’ve seen occasions where an individual needed desperately to go through a process in order to find their answers, to evolve, and just handing them over (your) answers like a prize not earned is both unfair and pompous. The spouse enduring a bad relationship needs to come the decision him/herself, to weigh that decision against needs and wants, and even to be open for possible fixing of the problem. The shy witch may need to go through various obstacles to discover the inner strength within, or the drunk needs rock bottom to find his way back up to the top.
Helping can, in fact, enable a person’s bad behavior or habits, rather than help in the end. Ask yourself if you’re really helping this person. Sometimes being a friend is enough, where you withhold your judgments and assure them that its okay to make mistakes now and then.
Don’t wallow in your misery. If you find yourself sharing with others all the health conditions and emotional issues you carry, then perhaps its not healing you’re after but pity. Are you hoping others can help you or are you looking for a way to excuse behavior?
I remember once a woman managed to snap at a group of drummers as she entered the room, teling them they shouldn’t wear rings and do this or that. I’m not sure what her intention was at the time, but she managed to alienate everyone in the room. When confronted with what she did, her excuse was that she was in a fight with her husband just before that. She wasn’t apologziing; she was giving excuses to her behavior. Instead of dealing with the issue of the fight with her spouse, she lashed out to people who had nothing to do with it, then expected them to forgive her for that behavior (despite her not being sorry let alone saying she was sorry).
Instead of focusing on the negative, look at the situation as a learning experience; that the problem is something to be solved, not endured. Lost your job? Maybe the next job will be better for you. Have health problems? Maybe its time to start taking care of yourself, to explore various healing methods, or look deep inside yourself that the illness manifests from some deeply ingrained emotion you haven’t comprehended yet.
Don’t expect a spell or prayer will get you out your mess. In fact, with many problems I’ve seen over the years that pagans are facing, it has more to do with some idiosyncrasy they have and refuse to overcome rather than the ‘powers that be’ having any influence. No amount of magick or prayer will fix that until they’re willing to move forward. If anything, the Divine/God/dess places situations to teach you, not fix your problems.
Take a moment to consider the problems you have in your life and consider how YOU are the main issue in them.
I can use myself as an example; I am a huge procrastinator which stems in fear. Where did this fear come from? How to overcome fears I’ve carried since childhood? It was, I discovered, a fear of failure stemming from the numerous times my family would point out my setbacks, labeling me as quitter or somehow lacking in this or that skill. No encouragement mind you, no words to help me figure out things for me, but the constant haranguing of what I did wrong. This soon developed into not wanting to do anything for fear of screwing my life up more than it had.
Now I realize it was ultimately me that was my biggest obstacle. Whatever reasons the fear started, I still picked it up and went with it. I’m an adult now. I can’t blame others for the fear I carry now. I have to choose to drop it, release it, or deny it, or however I wish to deal with that fear.
“Its okay to make mistakes” was one of Life’s most powerful lessons for me that I had to learn on my own through a process of mediation, reading books, talking to others, etc. Fortunately a series of serendipity kept hammering that idea into my head, and now it struck home. Wow, its okay to make mistakes.
You’d think such a lesson is basic and ‘everyone knows that’, but some of us don’t…or rather didn’t, and need to go through the process to get to that place. Its like Dorothy in Wizard of Oz, where she had the ability to go home any time she wanted, but she needed the Journey to discover that for herself.
Spells: What we want versus what we need June 11, 2009
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I’m finding more and more as of late a tug towards Buddhist teaching. Not that this interfers with my being pagan. If anything, Buddhism meshes very well with the concepts of “An it harm none” and the “Threefold Law of Return”. I find, however, that Buddhism lends more in explanation of these principles.
We could argue on the topic of ‘harm none’ and what it means, but many religion teach us to harm others harms ourselves. It creates an imbalance and often anger is met with anger, fear is met with fear. I’ve also discussed in a previous post how the 3-fold law isn’t the same as Karma. Karma is from the Sanskirt, meaning ‘action’. Its the culimination of our actions (good or bad) towards our reward. We must weigh what is considered good or bad. I personally see things as balanced and those that are imbalanced.
Take for instance when dealing with a difficult person. Your gut reaction tells you to deal harshly and with defined assertiveness, when some people work so much better with a gentler hand. What do you hope to gain by dealing with a difficult person? Is it to crush their overinflated ego into dust, or is there hope to nurture them into being stronger and better people?
This leads into the idea of what we want, and what we need. Our gut instinct always reaches for what we want- and what we want and to get it NOW. What we need, however, might not have anything to do with what we want, let alone when we want it. To simplify; I want a huge piece of chocolate cake right now, but a bowl of red grapes for a bedtime snack is the better choice for me. Tomorrow, I will likely regret even wanting the cake to begin with.
This is why when casting spells you should always meditate beforehand, to search through the feelings of instinct, anger, fear, and all the muck of emotion to realize what you need to grow and learn from situations.
Inner journeys and mastering fear May 2, 2009
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Fear is one of those ‘negative’ emotional that you try to avoid. Its unpleasant, even gripping if uncontrolled. However, fear is also necessary to the human condition.
Lately I’ve been exploring the subject of fear. I have plenty of fears of my own, so many in fact, its been hindering my efforts to move forward in my life to the point where I feel rather depressed and frustrated with things. Normally one doens’t enjoy putting their fear under scrutiny, but this is necessary if you hope to master it.
The first step to mastering fear is recognizing the fear. Not everyone can name their fears specifically. They prefer to avoid unpleasantness, laugh things off, find ways to procrastinate, or re-direct their attention to more pleasant things. To overcome fear, you must be able to accept the fear.
The next step is to find the cause of fear. Saying you have a fear of failure doesn’t clarify the reason why you fear failure. You need to ask yourself “What’s the worst the can happen?”. If you face your fear, will the world fall apart? Will it be the terrible thing you imagine it would be. A quote I once heard says, “Fear makes the wolf bigger”, so imagining the worst changing nothing in the actual state of being.
You can’t live without fear. Its part of the human condition, but ‘Courage is not the lack of fear; its having fear and facing that fear’. Facing fear and realizing things are not as bad as they seem can certainly add to lessening worries.
Some tips on facing fears:
- Use positive affirmation and self talk. Instead of focusing on the negative, focus on the positive. Instead of seeing what is to be lost by doing something, focus on what is to be gained.
- Ask yourself if your fears realistic? I used to worry incessantly about my son. I think women tend to be wet-wired for this, but my fears would be things like; what if he gets cancer? What if he gets mauled? What if I screw him so bad he ends up a killer or something? Are these fears realistic? No because I wasn’t seeing things as they are now, but creating scenarios based on fear only.
- Accept fear happens. Its what makes you human. Work through fear to accomplish your goals.
- Having fear and finding courage offers to hone you against adversary.
You can overcome fear, whihc doesn’t necessarily mean it will all go away, but you can master it.
The Gift of Empathy April 30, 2009
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Empathy, by definition, consists of the ability to understand another person(s) feelings or viewpoint.Too often I hear people explain to me how empathic they are, and how they ‘can’t shut the emotions of other people out’. Worse is when they try to impress that they are gifted. Its not a gift if you can’t handle it. Its not a gift if its not somehow helping yourself or others. Whatever they think they are feeling from others is not empathy as much as their own issues.
For instance, if you listen to someone who deals with an abusive relationship, a person who is truly empathic should be able to sympathize and listen, keeping in mind what is best for the person speaking. This is not how you would feel if dealing with an abusive relationship. Not everyone dealing with a troubled relationship considers themselves ‘abusive’ let alone a victim, and setting YOUR feelings on another doesn’t help. Not everyone is willing to leave an abusive relationship without trying to salvage it first.
Being unable to face crowds also is not a sign of being empathic as much as being introverted and unable to cope with the amount of attention. Not that being an introvert (shy) person is wrong or even a handicap, but recognize the difference.
Someone who can put themselves in someone else’s place must have a very good understanding of people but more importantly the individual they are talking with.
One ‘empath’ told me she never could break through my walls. What she never recognized is that she didn’t need to, nor did she need to use her powers of empathy to do so. Simply talking and sharing with me, building trust and mutual respect, drops the walls very easily. I do not easily trust others, and if she were truly empathic, she would know this.
The true gift of empathy enables you to understand others.
Finding a teacher April 5, 2009
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There are many pathways in spirituality, some narrow and uphill, while others are winding and confusing. Some offer peace, while others might offer challenges. The first step in finding a teacher is recognizing what your needs are in the spiritual path you’ve chosen.
Not everyone shares the same spiritual needs. I personally sought inner peace and understanding of my Self. I wanted to know why I do things I do, and how I can live in better harmony with the world around me. Unfortunately, not many of the books on paganism even touches those aspects. Instead they offer a quick means to setup an altar, cast spells, speak prayers or chants, and do all the required actions to make oneself pagan.
You might feel compelled to learn the various degrees within a coven to attain the level of priest/ess, but don’t feel as though you have to. Covens are often seeped in politics and too many teach practices and not enough about religion/faith. Instead, listen to your heart to what you need from a teacher.
In finding a means to learn doesn’t necessarily require a teacher. In fact, in many ways the best teacher is yourself. Who better to fulfill your spiritual needs than the God/dess within? But in order for you to learn, or rather unlearn then relearn, you need to shed preconceptions and your hangups. You have to ask many questions, and listen to answers, and then questions those answers. Meditate, ponder, and live by the guidance of your heart.
That being said, in finding someone to teach you the ways of any spiritual path, you need to sift through the scam artists and the ones who take advantage of others.
Other qualities to look for in a teacher;
- Experience. They should know enough about what they are talking about to pass this on to their students.
- Patience. A good teacher welcomes questions from his or her students.
- A sincerity of service. This means a good teacher understands the path they’ve chosen to teach others doesn’t have anything to do with ego or their self importance. Instead, they are ‘in service’ to their student and to the path of beliefs they’ve chosen to teach.
- Free. Someone who teaches religion shouldn’t ask for money. Such information should be freely given and shared, and honored. Asking for money is simply unethical. Outside of the cost of books (and many you can borrow or buy used), you can learn without spending a dime.
Some might argue the last point, saying that a teacher should be able to be compesated for their time, but if they profess to be clergy, to be in service to the god/dess, how can they justify demanding money for what all people should understand?
The importance of meditation March 30, 2009
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“Know thyself” is one of the principles of many pagan beliefs. The philosophy of understanding our true selves helps us master the will and strengthen integrity. Knowing who you are and what inner workings guide you also provides the foundation of spirituality and its purpose.
Meditation helps us understand ourselves. Some would say it guides us to enlightenment, but those of us that don’t adhere to the belief, or feel the need to do so, can still benefit from the quiet moments of meditation.
But what is Meditation? Meditation takes on many forms; from the quiet ‘empty mind’ of the Buddhist form, to the embracing the flow of thought in mindful meditation. Whether sitting in Lotus, or moving through the forms of Tai Chi, meditation offers many benefits of both spirit and that of the body.
Some benefits include easing pain, stress, and anger. Meditation improves blood flow, lowers blood pressure, improves mood by elevating Seratonin in the brain, enhances the immune system, and improves sleep.
Most important for pagans to learn meditation is to learn more about themselves, but also the ‘ground-and-center’ meditation before and after ritual. Grounding and centering also works great whenever one is stressed or agitated.
Basic Ground and Center technique. There are various ways in which to do this, especially with visualization. Some imagine energy welling up from the earth, through them, to the sky above, while others envision water or their soul like a vine burying into the earth. Use whatever you feel most comfortable with.
Children also benefit from transcendental forms to improve thought clarity, often improving focusing the minds of children diagnosed with ADHD/ADD.
Here is a wonderful video on how to Zazen meditation, and best illustrates how difficult it might be when you start out; be patient. It takes practice, and is well worth the effort.
Meditation Info-center- lots of information on meditation such as benefits, styles, and history.
Meditation and monkey mind March 23, 2009
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I’ve been reading lately some bits on ‘monkey mind’ and meditation. What prompted me to go on that path of thought was my therapist’s suggestion of calming the mind and learning to focus on one task at a time. I nearly panicked right then. Me? Focus on just one thing?
I’m a multi-tasker. Some people say I also talk fast. I also type fast, and read fast. I do things fast, and often more than one thing at a time. I guess in an odd way, I’m sort of addicting to overthinking. So when someone suggest I slow down or take things one at a time, it provokes an odd sense of fear in me. I’m not sure why. Perhaps busying myself helps fend off boredom, or even slowing down enough to grasp the real situation I find myself in. Who knows?
So I found a book I set aside called The Idiot’s Guide to Zen Living. It really simplifies concepts of Zen that are difficult for the Western mind to grasp. One metaphor often used to illustrate meditation is ‘monkey mind’. This is when your mind is racing, like a monkey jumping around a tree, chattering, and flailing about. Meditation helps calm the monkey mind to the stillness you might find on a pond’s surface, its ripples calmed.
This is tough to do if you’re someone who enjoys lots of thinking.
But my therapist is right; I need to find that stillness within me in order to focus on one thing at a time in order to accomplish things. Its like trying to catch petals on the wind, when if you wait for them to land, they’re easy to pick up.
Here is a video that best explains how to meditate; Check it out.
There are also many benefits for doing meditation, and not just to de-stress your life. It enhances the immune system, and increases Serotonin levels in the brain- you know the ‘happy’ chemical.
Meditation techniques- covers the basics of meditation
Meditation InfoCenter- lots of information here
Here’s a meditation timer you can use.
