Category Archives: Healing

The Road Not Taken…

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While homeschooling my son on poetry, we covered Robert Frost’s poem, The Road Not Taken. It lends to this idea about choices in life. Many people consider it speaks to us about taking a path not taken, perhaps regret about doing so, but this isn’t the case at all.

The Road Not Taken is  coming to a path diverged, a person might muddle through trying to decide which path is. The poem is about choices, and regretting choices, not the result of them.

Poem Guide shares the poem’s history and meaning, and speaks the fate of Frost’s good friend, Edward Thomas.

Daniel Todd Gilbert, a psychology professor at Harvard, researches happiness. He did a wonderful TedTalk on the topic of Why We Make Bad Decisions, and provides some interesting insight on our making decisions.

 

We live with consequences of our decisions. But don’t just live with them, learn from them. Don’t wallow in regret, be empowered by what you can learn from experiences.  Some lessons we learn from bad decisions can be invaluable to developing who we are as people.

Some techniques to help work through decisions:

Free writing. I’ve used this for plotting stories, but also use the free writing technique to work through making decisions.  It is simple to do- Write non-stop on the topic for 10-15 minutes. Don’t stop. Don’t worry about spelling or punctuation. I find that using this method lets your brain work through consequences and you find the answer reveals itself through the writing.

Tarot Reading. You can create your own card spread to find answers, but generally you want to tarot-spreads-decision-making-tarot-card-spreadexplore the symbolism and possible meaning through the tarot. The decision making spread can prove useful. Click image to go to the page to explain how to use.

Pendulum Method. This technique works with your subconscious through yes or no answers. I prefer free writing for my choice-helping-method, but you might find this method helps you too.

Find an item you can use for a pendulum, and start asking questions about the choice you need to make. The pendulum swings back or forth, or in circles, and you might be surprised on the answer.

Pendulum Basics– How to make and use a pendulum.

Runes. This method uses stone or wood pieces inscribed with runes or symbols to help guide you. You often find Viking runes, but you can also make your own with symbols that mean something to you.

Runes and Simple Decision Making.

What do you think? Have you let go of a past regret? Do you find a lesson to be learned from a bad decision? Post in comments.

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Moon Meditation: End of the Celtic Year

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I often use the moon cycles as a way to embrace the ebb and flow of meditations. During the dark half the moon, I tend to reflect on the past and planning, while the Full moon, I reflect on taking action.

This month’s moon is also the Harvest moon, the end of the Celtic calendar where you celebrate Samhain. This means preparing for the winter months, and ending the previous year.

CatSleepFor me, this year has sucked. Goals weren’t met, and in fact, most efforts ended up a mess or putting my life worse than what it was. I’d like to chalk it up as ‘life’s lessons’, but so much of the ‘not-working-out’ hinged on the idea of luck (or lack thereof). What can be learned when you seem to just have bad luck? Not much.

But even in the darker moments in life, you can learn valuable things about yourself. I believe it is the hardships that mold and shape us more than the events that work out. I’m not saying I like it that way, but my point is that you can glean a lesson despite tears and pain.

And my lesson? I realized this year I do too much. I put way too much on my plate where I couldn’t focus on the few things that mattered most. So this past September I began to trim and cut my task list down, quitting groups, and pulling back on things that wouldn’t lead me anywhere. It was very much like weeding a garden; figuring out what was blooming and what was being choked out with weeds.

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Organizing became easier with a planner. And not just any planner.  I also began to use composition books and altered them into monthly planners. I jot down ideas, add my task lists, and journal through the month. This helped me realize what was working and what was not.

A great thing with your own personalized planner is that you add new sections as needed. For instance, when December rolls around, I will add a section for gift making/buying, card making, recipes to make, events to do, and so forth.

They make great spell books, dream notebooks, or even a book of shadows.

Moon Meditation: Sit in a quiet spot with a journal. This can be anything from your computer, plain paper with pen, or a notebook. Now take long deep breaths, drawing in ‘light and energy’ while blowing out all worries and negative feeling. Once you feel calm, imagine yourself a seed stretching your root (spirit) into the earth, and drawing in its energies. Now once you feel anchored, stretch out your spirit like a tree (or flower) stretching the heavens to release doubt, fear, anger, etc. Once you feel at peace, consider the year’s end.

What did you achieve? Did you also find new goals? Did you learn valuable lessons? Is there anything you need to ‘weed’ out of your life in order to spiritually grow? Ponder these things. Once you feel ready, write these down in your journal.

Under the Weather

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Between the overcast drizzle and icy sleet of Maryland weather, I’ve found myself a bit under the weather.

What I mean by under the weather isn’t necessarily the winter blues. I get that from time to time, but this time, I mean I feel tired and unable to find motivation to do much of anything.

Here are some ideas I’m trying:

More lights. I don’t own a full spectrum Desk Lamp , unfortunately, but I do have three lamps in my office that I will turn out to sit in a very brightly lit room. My son jokes about, pretending to be blinded every time he enters. The light helps.

Be mindful of your diet. Sugar tends to drain me, and not eating healthy enough leads to vitamin/mineral depreciation. I bought a vitamin supplement that has lots of B vitamins, vitamin D, and Zinc, among others. Deficiency in B vitamins and Iron can lead to fatigue. I also try to focus more on whole foods rather than processed foods. Try to pick foods in its most natural form.

Try to regulate your sleeping. This is a huge issue for me because I have problems sleeping. I get woken up by my dog, my husband’s snoring, and sometimes it’s the city’s siren going off at 3 am to alert the volunteer firefighters. I also find evenings my brain decides it’s the best time to sprout ideas.

Drink more water. Water helps keep everything running smoothly, and being dehydrated can cause fatigue. How do you know if you’re dehydrated? Pinch the skin on the back of your hand while it lies flat on a table. The skin should pop back when released. If it leaves a pinch mark, you need fluids.

Meditation. Studies show over and over that meditation improved mood. Try starting out for 5-10 minute meditation and work your up to longer lengths of time. Take note of your mood. You should find a more focused mind, a sense of balance, and gains in physical and emotional well being.

Music. I listen to music, and sometimes it just takes a single song to perk me up or improve my mood. Here is some of my selection:

Helen Jane Long: Expression

Kellianna: Elemental – Fire Transform Me

I hope some of these tips help others during these cold, dark days.