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Cell phones in ritual

 Electronic gadgets are presently a thing so common as watches and jewelry. So when we have ritual, I feel at odds with asking anyone to give up their phones out of respect for the group. Here are my thoughts for circle etiquette;

Phones need to be off. This doesn’t mean to turn them off completely, but they must be silent, not even buzzing during ritual. This is out of respect for those who speak, invoke/evoke, or silent meditation. Once ritual begins, be polite and make sure the phone won’t make a sound while in circle.

Do not check text/messages/calls at awkward moments. My group happens to be pretty laid back and easy-going, so I don’t mind if we’re chatting if someone ones to share a photo, look up information to give me, or even turn on music they want added to the ritual. But its just polite to ask first, and to judge each situation for the group and mood.

Do not take photos, video, or recordings without permission from leaders. Many people appreciate their privacy.

As a group organizer (leader), I don’t expect members to put them away. I’m a parent, and would never think of giving my phone to someone when my son might call in case of emergency. It’s a tool, like anything else. It’s the attitude of the owner that will make the difference of whether its obnoxious or a useful tool in the magical temple.

What your thoughts? Cell phone or not? Post in comments.


Joy and Sorrow Ritual


Joys and Sorrows ritual. I wanted to share a bit more in-depth on the topic of sharing joys and sorrow in group ritual.

There are a few reasons why you might want to incorporate this;

  • It builds bonds. Knowing the joy/sorrow of fellow members provides each member some insight on what they’re going through. Empathy and compassion might be enough to keep someone going through troubles afloat, while the person enduring the hardship might find a bit more light in an otherwise dark life.
  • Offers support and help. I also find that sharing those bits of your life offers members the opportunity in case someone could help. A member mentioning being out of work might find a someone’s job looking for employment, or getting the word out. Another member, might find an offer of help to get out of their situation, or advice.
  • It reminds of us balance. Even solitary, you can light a candle for joys and sorrows. It acknowledges the hardships we must endure to learn and grow, but also reminds us to focus on joys that we might otherwise take for granted.

How to do the Joy and Sorrow ritual; Select a tray or plate, or a bowl filled with sand. You can use tea lights, birthday candles, or other candles. One for each joy or sorrow.

Ask each member, or if you’re solitary, state out loud the joy and sorrow you want recognized and light the candle. Take a moment to consider- 1) what lesson will you learn, or how can you grow from the sorrow, and 2) bask in the joy you feel to celebrate that.

Let the candles burn through the rest of the ritual and blow out at the end of ritual, giving thanks for what Life/the Gods/Higher Power/etc gives you.

Post in comments thoughts and ideas for this. I’d love to hear from you.

Friday Fun: Tip for invoking Quarters

1297475772695438Invoking the four Quarters, or elements, can be simple by remembering the simple invocation;

I call upon you, Ancient Ones of the (direction/element).

To touch us with (add traits you attribute to the element or direction. This can be inspiration of Air, the power of change of Fire, the growth of earth, or the temperance of Water).

I call upon you to join me in this sacred space

Hail and Welcome.

Its more important to evoke what the element/direction means to you than the actual words themselves. Fill your heart and mind with images and emotion for that particular element.

You may find this changes over time, or what  you need for that specific circle. That’s perfectly ok and be expected.

In the coming weeks, take time to meditate and learn about each direction and see what symbols and characteristics mean the most to you.

Blessed Be-